Anyone that thinks guys don’t use dating sites specifically to get laid if is a fucking moron. Conversely, anyone that thinks chicks need to do the same probably isn’t getting laid. So why is there such a discord in reference to intentions on the various “dating” sites? Well, the biggest issue is that quality bros and broads alike use these sites (i.e. OkCupid, Tinder, PlentyOfFish, Match, etc.). There are nice, attractive, intelligent people that are sick and tired of the bar scene and the uncertainty of ever seeing the person you woke up next to ever again.
The real trouble is what type of approach is taken to whichever app or site is being used. On top of that, there are various personas and stereotypes that are essential built in to each site. If you read my review of dating sites for BroBible (and I know you did, because I’m amazing), then you should have a good idea of what to look for when using any one of these sites. But let’s just do a quick run-down of what they are to make sure you aren’t putting yourself in an unfortunate position. OkCupid is a site/app used for mainly for hooking up. While people have found lasting relationships, there haven’t been many good examples of lasting relationships from its use. That’s not to say there aren’t legitimate individuals using it but there is a distinct emphasis on personal questions that may otherwise lead you to believe that the person answering is pretty fucking one-track minded. Tinder is an app that is all about first impressions and how quickly you decide to talk to people. This has an even bigger emphasis on sex as it’s basically a game of key-words and fitting as many MySpace pictures on your profile as possible. Instead of showing where you live, there is distance from you current location that is shown and you are left to guess what the hell it means. PlentyOfFish is a site/app that has less quality and is widely known for being the dating app for single mothers and girls on the road to becoming single mothers. Match started as a website and has been around for a while while transitioning to the app version. It’s one of the few pay sites that people under the age of 30 use to find normal dating options. The problem with Match is that it is too tame for people under 30. Getting to know someone completely based off of what is appropriate isn’t fun.
So as you can see, your profile really has to mean something if people are going to take you seriously. Unfortunately, the likelihood that 100% of dudes will use dating apps for actual dating and not just hooking up is about as likely as Taylor Swift dating the same guy for more than two weeks. There is an inevitable unfortunateness of the whole situation that can’t really be changed. In the same way that most guys will look for the perfect relationship and freedom to do what they want when they want, girls will look for that one guy that defies all negative stereotypes and only wants one person for the rest of their life. Odds are that things will work out for couples every now and then, but that things have their own funny way of working out regardless of how it appears.